A sequel to: An Open Letter to the Person Sitting in Front of My Son on The Airplane

A sequel to my airplane story.


After reading a lot of nasty feedback on this article. I want everyone to know that a vast majority of my open letter was taking place in my mind, IT NEVER ACTUALLY HAPPENED!! 

Know this:

None of my letter happened in real life. Besides this—My son pushed his feet on the man’s seat and the man stood up and yelled at him. I apologized and told my son to stop. But my kid is three, he doesn’t quite understand what is going on yet. Less than five minutes later,  he got into a confrontation with another couple on the plane. He was sitting in their seat and the flight attendant was forced to defuse the situation by bumping him up to first class.

I never actually got into a confrontation with this man. Nor did I let my kid kick his seat for two hours. My son kicked his seat once and that was it. I did, however, get pissed of over the remainder of the flight. I stewed away, thinking  about how rude he was to my kid. The only other thing that actually happened was the nice lady on our connecting flight. She did tickle his feet and talk to him over the course of the flight. She made it easier for him to relax and not swing his feet around. This was my attempt to thank her and shine a light on her kindness, as well as his rudeness.  

I will always try my best to keep my son’s feet off of an airplane seat. I can now see how this article might have given people the wrong impression. I have learned from this and going forward, I will be much more aware of what I write. I won’t leave so much up for interpretation.

Let me also say that mommy shamming is not nice and I really wish we would stop. We need to support one another, instead of putting each other down. I myself have internally judged another mother before and I realize just how self-righteous it was. If you are keeping them safe, teaching them right from wrong(telling them it’s not okay to kick a seat), and loving them with all your heart. BRAVO!!! Kisses to all!!!  

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6 thoughts on “A sequel to: An Open Letter to the Person Sitting in Front of My Son on The Airplane”

  1. Yes this is true but also getting a little rest at someone else’s expense without them offering etc is just. I completely understand I have horrible health and had a situation happen when I was in the process of my son having mri’s and CT scans. This was shortly after his third brain surgery. I once had someone give me a paddle as well as the School labeling him as behavioral issues. Which cleared up after fixing the first 10mm aneurysm. I can see how thing are in both situations. Again you never know what someone’s going through. Like Alzheimer’s as well as other health issues can cause someone to be grumpy etc. I think the moral of the story is why write one calling someone out when they can’t offer their side. No if it’s life threatening that might be different. Hugs and loves everyone has something going on at some point and it might have just been a bad day for them as you needing a little rest.

  2. If they don’t have anything nice or encouraging to say they should zip it lock it and put it in their pockets 🙂 . Continue to write from your heart !

    1. I would like to correct myself. To Jessica Ayres KEEP blogging, Just not along these lines. Your writing skills and style are great. I enjoyed your website. The world (and myself included) is not sympathetic to those who feel they are to be treated differently because they had a bad day. Even when things are rough we are expected to do the best we can. The writer probably did the best they could, and yet were not able to help their son control himself that day. The “rude” man was not able to control himself. Again what made that man rude? It may have been more than the little boy kicking his seat. We may never know.

  3. I read your original story and, as someone who has to travel for work, it brought to mind the many times I have had to endure sitting next to, in front of, or in back of children as they misbehave. To be honest, your take on the incident angered me. Among other things, you made a lot of assumptions about the man in front of you, including that he was not also burdened by undisclosed hardships and/or sadness, and/or that he had not also just been through a very hectic holiday experience. Then I read the story about your losing your husband when this baby was just three days old –and another story in which you candidly describe your first holiday season after your husband’s death — and my irritation immediately gave way to the desire to give you and your son big hugs. I can only imagine how stressful this time of year is for you, and I think I get why this incident affected you like it did. I still believe that you need to look at the other side of the coin (none of us knows why this man was so grumpy), but that advice applies equally to those (like myself) who initially reacted to your story by becoming angry at you. The next time I am seated in the vicinity of a child who is working on my last nerve, I will try to remember this incident and force myself to show his or her parents the same kindness the other woman in your story showed you and Jax. I am very sorry for your loss and wish you and your son a peaceful and happy holiday season. (BTW, the therapist who helped you through the first holiday season after your husband’s death sounds like an amazing person, who is also a credit to his profession. I truly wish that — when my own father died mid-year many years ago, leaving my mother with a toddler — she had someone like this to help her get through the first holiday season and beyond.)

    1. I’m sorry you lost your husband. It must be difficult to parent a young child alone. However, I still find you totally in the wrong here. The huge backlash to your letter should have caused you to pause and re-evaluate your attitude. The world doesn’t stop revolving if we have to admit we are wrong from time to time. You had a stressful day, but you have no way of knowing what the man’s burden was, either, right? He may also be struggling with some great challenges, and the last straw was having to endure having the back of his seat kicked by a child whose mother didn’t see it as any big deal. I have children as well, and when they are being inconsiderate to others, it’s my job to correct them immediately. If I had been in your shoes, I would have apologized and re-directed the child’s attention, not gotten angry and defensive. The whole thing would have been defused if you had taken that one simple measure. I’m sure you are a great mother, but imo you blew it this time.

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